“I can’t believe this is really happening."
I'll never forget the first time I spoke those powerful 7 words.
I was 18 years old and in love with my girlfriend.
But when we tried to have sex, something wouldn't work. (That "something" was me.)
I was not able to get an erection.
I was struck with performance anxiety (a condition that would take years for me to understand fully). Instead of witnessing her pleasure, I remember the sad look on her face as she imagined she was at fault...worried she wasn't good enough to turn me on.
This is not how I imagined sex would feel.
This is not what my friends had told me about.
This is not what sex looked like on TV.
And then came those dreaded 7-words that would change the course of my life:
"I can’t believe this is really happening."
After that experience, I was embarrassed, ashamed, and traumatized. I was too scared to speak up and ask for help for fear of being laughed at. Even worse, I worried that something was really wrong with me. What if I was broken or dysfunctional? What if I couldn't find a real connection, please my girlfriend, or ever experience pleasure myself?
That shame and fear forced me into silence. UNTIL NOW.
Hey FEELING SEEN Fam,
I know not everyone has experienced performance anxiety like me.
But everyone (yes, everyone you know) has experienced something behind closed doors that they were afraid to talk about:
Something frustrating
Something embarrassing
Something confusing
Something strange
Something hilarious
Maybe even something kinky, daring or taboo…
And I know you have, too. That's why you're here.
Shoot, that’s why I’m here...
So, here's the good news, Fam:
Today, we turn all of those confusing, frustrating, shameful, curious, and even kinky experiences into a powerful new platform for sexual exploration, education, understanding, and connection. That platform is called Feeling Seen.
It's about making sex (the good, the bad, and the intriguing) easier to talk about.
And it starts with taking back those 7 powerful words to celebrate our launch:
*Pinch me* "I can't believe this is really happening!"
So, what can you expect from being part of the Feeling Seen Fam?
1. "TABOO" TOPICS
Nothing (and we mean NOTHING) is off-limits here. We’ve heard it all, lived it all, and coached to it all. So, bring on those kinky, hard, or embarrassing questions. This is a safe (and super fun) space.
2. TRUSTED ADVICE
The Feeling Seen team is made up of Board Certified Sexologists, Wellbeing Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. We won’t give you any information or ideas that aren’t tried, tested, and trustworthy. Sometimes we share our own advice, and sometimes we broadcast the advice of others who have helped us along the way. Either way, we're only giving you the good stuff. You feeling me?
3. TRANSPARENCY
I may be a media veteran, but becoming a Sex Coach is ALL new. I’ll stay as vulnerable and open in this space as you allow me to. In the coming weeks, I will also share our brand new 5-Step Feeling Seen Formula to build better sexual well-being. It’s a simple, easy-to-use (and free!) system I created in my coaching practice to help you form more powerful connections in and out of the bedroom.
Until then…If you don’t feel seen out there, I’ll always see you here.
Mike
